How do you recognize real true love? After being deceived by artificial love, it finally dawned on me. Love is gentle. Love is kind. Love is patient and love is not easily provoked. Love doesn’t seek to hurt. I would add, real love uplifts, protects, compliments, and seeks the best no matter what. Love is … Continue reading How do you recognize true love?
This scripture reading tells us that the end is better than the beginning. It is a scripture God gave to me many times in my life when a season or relationship had expired, but I desired to remain in those seasons longer than God had intended. Because of this, I was simply operating in a … Continue reading Better is the end than the beginning…
While I have made many great choices in life, the fact remains that I made a few mistakes in the area of relationships. But through it all, the good and the bad, everything has all worked together for my good, read Romans 8:28. As I look back over past relationships, being young and naive, I … Continue reading Disobedience blocks blessings!
What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage. Before marriage, we are carried along by the force of the in-love obsession. After marriage, we revert to being the people we were before we “fell in love.” Our actions are influenced by the model of our … Continue reading Criticism and Demands Tend to Drive Wedges
Not all of us are out of touch with our emotions, but when it comes to talking, all of us are affected by our personality. I have observed two basic personality types. The first I call the “Dead Sea.” In the little nation of Israel, the Sea of Galilee flows south by way of the … Continue reading Dead Sea and Babbling Brook
How many of us have haphazardly traveled through life and allowed the wrong relationships to form in our lives? How do you really know if you are in a relationship God intended? Check in with the Master For every relationship, it is extremely important to check with God first. Connecting with the right person may … Continue reading Are you in the right relationship?
“For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife..”. (Matthew 19:5)When a man is prayerfully looking for a wife, he looks for a companion, lover and friend. He doesn’t go looking for someone who will be a mother to him. What man says to himself, “I need to get a wife who will be a mother to me.”? That may sound ridiculous but for some wives, they see their husband as a helpless child.
If a mother-wife wants to stop being a mother-wife and become the lover-wife, she needs to implement the “space and grace” attitude. (This is explained in the previous article.) She needs to allow her husband to be a man and stop treating him like a child.
A mother-wife may think that her husband is “lost” without her and perhaps may even like the childish dependency but that does not…
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It isn’t enough to just be in the same room with someone. A key ingredient in giving your spouse quality time is giving them focused attention, especially in this era of many distractions. When a father is sitting on the floor, rolling a ball to his two-year-old, his attention is not focused on the ball … Continue reading Quality Time
When I demand things from my spouse, I become a parent and she the child. It is the parent who tells the three-year-old what he ought to do and, in fact, what he must do. That is necessary because the three-year-old does not yet know how to navigate in the treacherous waters of life. In … Continue reading Love Makes Requests, Not Demands
Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishments. At the heart of humankind’s existence is the desire to be intimate and to be loved by another. Marriage is designed to meet that need for … Continue reading Love Tank